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A Christmas (goodness gracious), a Long Time Ago

I am settling into the Southwest corner evening; the fire is warming the family room; a selection of guitar renditions of Christmas carols are on the stereo; the aroma of Maureen’s dinner is wafting from the kitchen; the magnificently decorated tree, a Maureen and Sarah creation, is lit.

It has been a good day; i did my entire checklist of calisthenics, a rare feat; Apple Care resolved a major concern of mine about document management on my computer; my editor declared in her next reading of my book it was a “fabulous military memoir;” i am only a day away from completing my Christmas gift list; and the waning gibbous moon is casting it’s pale light over the Christmas season.

So, in my non-reclining chair by the fire, i am taken back to Christmas past from a long time ago. The homes on Castle Heights Avenue and the connecting streets, West Spring, Wildwood, and Westwood teemed with children. Our home rippled with children’s expectations and fear. My fears of ashes and soot in my stocking were justly deserved.

Gene Autry’s “Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer” and Spike Jones’ rendition of “All I Want for Christmas Is My Two Front Teeth” were our favorites in spite of Bing Crosby’s Christmas songs. The songs were essentially back stage to our Christmas happening. And of course, the Christmas hymns were almost ceaseless at the Sunday morning and evening services. Yes, we went caroling as well.

In the days of yore into which i go back, “Miracle on 34th Street” and “It’s a Wonderful Life” were about the only movies that were available that i remember watching. And since television didn’t enter our life, and then only from 3:00 p.m. to 11:00 pm until 1954, the focus was different.

i suspect our Christmases were pretty much the same as most families back then with a few twists like opening presents on Christmas Eve when we opened ours after Santa Claus’ drop offs were revealed and we had eaten a proper breakfast.

Christmas season did not start in October like it does now. If any early shopping was done, it was with the two-inch thick Sears and Roebuck catalogue. Big gifts were often on layaway somewhere, and clothes were purchased often at Caster Knots on Church and 7th or Harvey’s at 6th and Church in Nashville. Those day-long trips to the big city were big deals because we went to see Harvey’s  larger-than-life and gloriously lighted creche in front of the Parthenon.

And we didn’t put up our decorations three months before nor leave them up until spring. Daddy went out to Papa Wynn’s farm and cut down a cedar tray, mounted it in the front corner of the living room and made a wreath from cedar branches for the front door about a week before the big day. When time had moved into the 50’s lights were added to the wreath. Then he put the branches around the arched door and added lights to that also, none blinked but they all went out when one died.

It all came down the day after Christmas.

Christmas Eve was gump-stump full of anticipation. It was hard to sleep while trying to hear hooves on the roof, and imagining what that old man looked like while he ate the cookies and boiled custard we had left on the coffee table — he always ate about half the cookie but drank all of the boiled custard.

Christmas morning came early, but not early enough for us. In our home back then, the children stayed upstairs in the two bedrooms, sometimes it was just the three siblings, sometimes there were five, and at least once our Prichard cousins from Florida were also in attendance.

We were standing, or rather jumping up and down and screaming “please let us go see the presents” on the bottom steps of the narrow stairs behind the closed door guarded by an adult. Those adults had been up into the wee hours helping Santa and before we were allowed off those stairs Daddy had to set up the brilliant lights for taking the home movies. It was usually around 6:30 before bedlam when the little imps exploded into the living room to stop and gasp at the gifts galore under our stockings hung on the mantel with care.

Early on, i got a miniature service station. There was the Double-R miniature ranch complete with ranch house, bunk house, corral, cattle, horses, and of course, Roy and Trigger (i don’t remember a Dale figure but i wasn’t focused on women back then).
And then there were toy soldiers, cowboy outfits, including chaps, boots, and hats, and wagons, and a Red Ryder BB rifle.

After that, the rest of the day paled. All i wanted was to play with my toys. i was likely to get some practical clothes in the wrapped presents. i would eat but ready for the dessert and boiled custard, so i could get back to those happy things laying lifeless in the living room by the tree, waiting for me to imagine them back to breathing, full of life little people…or go outside and be a cowboy.

In many ways, i was much like Ralphie in “A Christmas Story” except i didn’t wear glasses and thankfully, no one ever gave me a bunny suit.

And somehow, some strange and amazing way, we did not forget why we celebrated this day, a holy day.

Things have changed. Being old, i forget the bad parts, remember the good, and believe it was better. There really is no better, just different. And i think, no, i feverishly hope no one forgets the promise of peace on earth the event 2021 years ago brought to us.

Merry Christmas.

 

Gifts

The gifts came with a Christmas card, which included an explanation of the gifts.

Then, the Southwest corner took a turn toward Christmas. It wasn’t  a severe turn, more like a gentle curve toward Noel. The lows, which are the lowest when the old mariner begins his chores around first light, are waltzing between the high 30’s and low 40’s. i even played golf in the cool rain Friday and stayed in my wind shirt Monday.

Today, the front rolled in from the northwest. The wind smacked at 40 knots and the Pacific rain pelted me as i climbed my hill to lower and remove our flag, concerned the conditions might break the flagpole. The storm continued as i sat at my desk attempting to work on my response to the gifts. i looked out my window and the bougainvillea outside my office window had m morphed into a Christmas monster appealing to me to join it in a dance of carols.

If you care to see it threatening me, here is a short video:

bouganvillea christmas monster

The jolly Christmas monster spoke to me, “Quit fooling around on that response to your Christmas gifts. The gifts had caused me to stop for a moment, one of those times i have to catch my breath. They were postcards with Lebanon scenes on them. i will not describe the scenes or relate why they were sent here. That is reserved for the giver. But i had struggled to come up with an appropriate reply. The monster got me moving.

i will, however, let you know about the giver. She is beautiful, successful, joyful, and thoughtful. When we were growing up, i think i felt she was too beautiful to be interested in me. Of course, i was a teenager with every angst, doubt, desire, and all of the other rampant emotions of a teenage boy at the time, i.e., i didn’t think straight.

She and i reconnected at a high school reunion where i didn’t really belong but had been adopted by the class. We enjoyed our discussions.

Now, i have a relationship that is wonderful because she is a great friend. i want her to meet Maureen.

Thank you, Judy Lewis Gray. The gifts were wonderful and your friendship is the best gift of all.

Merry Christmas.

Notes from the Southwest Corner: A Sailor’s Happiest and Loneliest Moments

From my Lebanon Democrat archives — it’s a good thing i saved most of them as the new owners disowned anything written there before their takeover. i repeat it here as i wish to remind myself of those sailors, soldiers, and airmen who will not be home for Christmas. We also won’t be back home for Christmas but will be home in the Southwest corner, which is just fine.

SAN DIEGO – Thanksgiving is gone, and Christmas is now truly just around the corner.

The Southwest corner Jewell contingent will be in Tennessee. “I’ll Be Home for Christmas,” just like Elvis sang a long time ago and Bing sang a long, long time ago.

These first few weeks of December evoke my recollections of the mariner and the sea with its wonderful and wonderfully sad moments.

Many deployments to the Mediterranean or the Western Pacific ended just before Christmas. For the first few deployments, I kept a short-timer calendar. I numbered backward from the day we were to return to home port. Then I marked off each succeeding day to note the count of days remaining.

I quit when I realized it seemed to make the days pass more slowly.

Christmas Landings

Deployments ending around Christmas could be especially happy. Not only was I home from seven to nine months at sea, but I was home for the holidays. I certainly could relate to Bing and Elvis when they sang Kim Gannon’s lyrics. It was truly “the most wonderful time of the year” as Andy Williams sang to us in the 1960s.

It could also be about the most lonesome time.

During my sailing days, ships had a month’s Rest and Relaxation (R&R) period split by Christmas. Half of the officers and crew would get the first 15 days off and the other half would get the last 15 days. If I was in the wrong half, it meant I would spend Christmas working.

After every deployment, single officers, actually or geographically, would get the duty to stay on board the day the ship moored in her home port. The two together could put a real whammy on the holidays.

A Single’s Duty

When I was single, geographically, or otherwise, having to stay on board when my ship moored at home for the first time in months, the first night was most lonesome.

The furor of docking the ship next to a pier clobbered with a military band; Navy brass to welcome us home and get photo ops; and wives, children, and girl friends waiting to take their husbands, fathers, and lovers home kept my adrenalin flowing.

When the brass exited, the women, children, and girl friends took their men home, and the music died, the duty section went to work. The engineering plant had to be secured in consonant with connecting the shore power, water, and auxiliary steam lines. Mooring lines had to be tripled, triced, with rat guards installed. The quarter deck had to be rigged to spit and polish standards.

The command duty officer (CDO, a.k.a. me) was briefed by the captain. The duty watch sections had to be set. The duty section had to muster; damage control and security drills had to be run; colors had to be observed at sunset, and watertight integrity had to be set and checked. After the evening mess, eight o’clock reports had to be taken. A walk through all of the ship’s spaces was my final evening duty.

After taps, an empty hush ensued. I would ponder my lonesomeness in the empty wardroom, which had been a bustling center of khaki for months.

Christmas Away

Even more lonesome were deployments which sailed right through the holidays.

Christmas in Cam Rahn Bay was not too bad. After a year in and out of Vietnam, I was going home in less than a month, and a great guy, Ollie White from West Virginia, an Army Korean Military Advisor Group (KMAG) officer and i shared our Christmas with a pretty young lady, whose father was a general had volunteered for the the U.S.O., and was manager of the base officer’s club.

Christmas in Hong Kong was spectacular, including an evening dinner at the British Officer’s mess atop a pier side skyscraper, followed by the Episcopalian midnight mass.

Christmas on the U.S.S. Yosemite in Diego Garcia was particularly poignant. Only a few of us were conditioned to long deployments. We needed to take the novices’ minds off their distance from home.

Our wardroom mess specialists (formerly stewards) conjured up a Christmas dinner with all the trimmings, including non-alcoholic sparkling wine. The uniform was service dress blue, and the wardroom was candlelit.

All of those holiday celebrations were well done, fun, high quality, and very, very lonesome.

My family has been coming back to Tennessee for Christmas since 1992. For me in many ways, it is like a sailor coming home from the sea, and it is far, far away from lonesome.

Note: We have only missed two Tennessee Christmases since 1992. Covid whacked us out of it last year. Christmas on Signal Mountain is dear and oh, so Christmas. Yet, our low in the Southwest corner yesterday was 39, so it’s beginning to feel a lot like Christmas here as well.